Saturday, October 3, 2020

Leadership Begins at the Top



  
This morning I read an article about Mavericks owner Mark Cuban being quoted as saying, "Leadership starts with caring-but not in the way you think. As a leader, you can talk about targets. About goals. About missions and visions. You can communicate and connect and engage in an effort to inspire and motivate, but in most cases, your employees will simply smile and nod and go back to doing their jobs the way they always have. No one starts caring about the business they work for until they know the business cares about them." I believe that this fundamental truth is what people are all about. This truth alone has grown a people to reach their goals and dreams, but the lack of it has wiped out the visions and hope for many. The reality is that this attribute is a choice...a choice to be someone or be no one. I don't know Mr. Cuban personally but I could not stand up and applaud more than to his practical belief in the way he leads others.

A goal I set up for myself as it relates to people that cross my path is this quote but unfortunately I do not know who said it, "people will not remember many words you spoke to them, but they will always remember how you treated them." I mentor many men, young and old, in addition, I have mentors myself. I have them so that I know and can speak to how it feels for someone to love and support me. This way I can experience and provide a similar care to my mentees. There is no greater feeling than to hear and feel a genuine kind of love and and know that in anything I may face, I will never be alone. I tell my guys that the giants we all face are at times so much bigger and stronger that anyone of us, but together, we can cut down the odds of being defeated just by being a team. I also must always share that our greatest warrior lives within each of us. Now the odds of defeat are impossible when Jesus is our general during any battle. It is impossible for us to lose a battle without or within regardless if the outcome is what we think it should be or if it is the total opposite. As long as the Lord has it, rest assured that you've won.

There will be times when we feel down and out, with no vision or no goal, and it seems like life has taken on a black and white tint with no color anywhere. There will be times when our emotions are left wounded and bleeding, our hope and inspiration have dissipated like a vapor. As long as we see things through our eyes, our flawed perspective, you're correct, it will look bleak, dark, and impenetrable with no form of light within. But when it seems its darkest, there is another way, there is another perspective that each of us can simply get, can simply receive, and all it takes is a heartfelt confession that my way is not the way, but His way is the way...and if you recall, also the truth and the life. He just wants to have an intimate, side by side, and high five hand on hand with you and with me...or any other man that extends out his hand to receive.

Mr. Cuban is on to one of the best kept secrets ever. The secret really isn't all that secret because it's all of us seeing what the need is and acting on it. This is a spiritual insight that is greater than us but it keeps us grounded on loving and serving others as we would want someone to do for us. That gentleman, is leadership.

Tuesday, September 29, 2020

The Strength of the Wolf is the Pack...


 Men have something built in them that somehow pushes them to believe that we are strongest when we are an army of one, that we can conquer kingdoms all by ourselves and that to ask another guy for assistance is a sign of weakness. Truth be told, a man has a hard time going to the grocery store alone and bringing home all the items wifey mentioned. Ask any wife and see if the statement isn't generally true.

In my specific line of work I've come across many "alpha" men who have a very personalized way of doing life...not that it's wrong or right, it's just so indicative of that guy's personality or character. We all have this and function out of it, from it, or towards it at any given time. The fact is that many people try to correct this behavior by using some sort of modification technique.

I feel like when we do this it's almost like trying to take the man out of how God created him and make him into a template of how God made me. I believe that if I accept a guy based on his behaviors then I will have reason to disrupt our communication. On the other side of the coin, what if I accept this person based on the potential within him. What if together, we decide to allow him to be himself and at the same time we work towards allowing God to mold him the way He sees fit, and become more like Christ? As structured and churchy as that may seem, it really isn't but it does present an opportunity for a mans individuality all the while being transformed. I have worked with some men that together we built a bridge between his attribute, strengths, and powers and his individualized inherent traits to be used for the glory of God and His work in this imperfect person. And man let me tell you... they make a beautiful melody together. A different sort of sculpture chiseled away by authenticity, unmerited love, and coupled with an intimate hug that says, "God loves you the way your are and so do I".

Bottom line is that, like the wolf who feels that his strength is in himself, a mindset adaptation and adjustment promotes the realization that I am accepted, loved, and supported by the pack that surrounds me. Isn't this what happens when we lead off with the love of Christ, and when we push aside our own sideline ticket? Yup...together men can conquer anything, but left alone will tire and fizzle out. Alone is not a good walk.

Sunday, September 27, 2020

Someone said it was a "New Norm"

 September 27, 2020

There haven't been many years, if any, that compare to 2020 in the unexpected occurrences all around us. We have walked through so many things that we have never experienced before and for those of you that may be similar to me in likes and dislikes, then your world hasn't changed much at least on the inside. Hopefully the next year will be the total opposite of this year in being a more in control world, but as we all know, chances are just chances and change is always evolving. 

However, one thing that doesn't really change is the make-up of a man. We have unique traits, characteristics, and an incredible personality developed thru the years and it has given birth to the black hat me and the white hat me. And you too my friend wear a white hat at times, and on occasion, the black hat. 

This is what is truly "me" when you gaze in the mirror, and you do...but what do you see? Do you see a beautiful you (and you don't have to be female to be beautiful) or do you see a person you're not so fond of? As we move forward we will shape our thinking to recognize, deal with, and appreciate who we are as an individual more so than that someone you truly don't care to be around if you had a choice. 

Let's begin with a simple task. When you wake in the morning do you feel like it's Monday everyday? Or perhaps, ready to jump all in like it's a Friday? Hate to say it, but I think you know that if you wake up to Monday or to Friday depends totally on you. Your point of view, your vantage point, or any other way that molds what the rest of the day will be like. Yep...you know it and I know it. Understand, I am not minimizing the hard ups and downs in life nor do I want to portray a Polly Anna viewpoint either. Oh wait, for you young guys, Polly Anna was a young girl who never saw anything in life as hard, or something to panic about. She merely went thru life with a smile, a peanut butter and jelly sandwich in one had, and chocolate chips in the other. What a life! 

Ok getting back to our task. I would love to challenge you with this seemingly simple task and that is to remind yourself every morning that you will not allow any negative feelings to dominate your thoughts and your mind. The most important part here is that you remind yourself because if you can do this then you will have a clear prompting as to how you are going to allow your day to flow. The secret here is that you have to keep this reminder well in the forefront of your mind, otherwise you will not succeed and something else will take over the helm on your wonderful ship.